Reigniting the fire through the Butterfly effect
I did not realize that I had become so jaded. I had begun to look at everything through such a cynical lense. I was sitting in a church service and the message was pretty good until I started thinking about what the preachers angle could have been. There have been other examples I could cite but for the sake of brevity I will not. The real question is when did I stop operating from the heart and switched to operating strictly from the logical mind.
Recently I have been asked to work on a project to help others to reach their goals. My heart jumped in excitement at the opportunity but then my logical mind jumped in and begin asking the questions that slow/curb all enthusiasm in the spirit of doing the right things in the right way profitably.
As I began work on the project I was in that place of how can we make a huge impact on the targeted group. I was getting all intellectual and deep on this process when I was reminded by my wife that we/I needed to spend more quiet time in prayer, praising, reflection and thankfulness.
I was in this quiet time and was reminded that the impact I can make does not necessarily start with me or even end with me. It begins with a little flap of a wing early in a person’s life and I am simply flapping my little wing in that person’s direction as well that will create a hurricane of goodness for them. I am not the hurricane but a contributor or more accurately a little butterfly.
It’s a small thing but this realization has gotten me totally geeked and reignited to help as many people as I can without trying to judge my overall impact logically.
Teaching Compliance to young people
Compliance has a situational element that has to be considered.
My wife was recently talking with a friend of hers who is a nurse. The friend/nurse said the following about working with patients. She stated that when you are under their care you never want to be viewed as a non-compliant patient. In a hospital setting if you are viewed as non-compliant which basically means in my words you are not following their specific care instructions then they will focus their maximum efforts on those who do. This makes total sense to me but it does somewhat conflict with one of my main internal philosophy: Do not be sheep!
To me “Do not be sheep!” means to question why you are doing things and to look for new creative ways to get things done. If your answer is a shrug and a response similar to this is the way we have always done things, then I want to stab you in your eye with a toothpick to get you to wake up. The majority of rules and laws are created to control us and benefit those who created the rules/laws.
However when I look further into this thought of compliance on an individual basis this becomes supercritical for young people. It is very situational as grades, recommendations, teacher and coach approval are all based on total compliance. If you want to succeed in education and many entry level jobs compliance is required to be seen in the best light. The young people who are not as compliant do not get the best grades, the most help, recommendations, playing time, etc. I do totally get this and encourage my kids to comply in these environments.
The school system and athletics that help form and develop young people have pounded them so hard with conformity and compliance that any suggestion of taking a risk or speaking your mind is foreign to these young people. Most young people are very hesitant and cautious as it relates to expressing themselves outside the norms. They see what happens to the Kaepernick’s of the world who dare to speak out.
In my world of investing in franchises and small businesses most kids and their parents for that matter find it very difficult to deviate from the prescribed path determined by an educational/career track system that may no longer be in their best interest. Compliance is situational and we need to teach our children to be cognizant of those moments. When dealing with police, traffic rules, or in a hospital situation compliance is a must. When new opportunities appears the rules of old (compliance) such as you should not jump jobs too often, you should invest for the long run in vehicle that you can’t touch for 30 years, invest for the long term safe thing not the short term risky thing that may have a huge upside or provide the lifestyle freedom that you have been dreaming about.
My convoluted conclusion is “Do not be sheep, if you do not have to!” This kind of cracks me up but so be it.
When did you decide, you didn’t know?
I was in a meeting at church on Sunday working with one of the auxiliaries that serve communion. The young lady leading the meeting explained the process to everyone involved with great detail. When she was done she then asked if there were any questions because you can’t get down there in front of the whole congregation and decide at that moment that you don’t know what to do?
That question really jumped out at me as a reality that I have to deal with daily. I have teenagers, employees that span generations, peers and family members which test this factual statement everyday. What causes very smart individuals to nod their heads in agreement or understanding and then go out and do exactly opposite of the instructions given to them? What causes that infuriating blank stare that comes before the statement of “I didn’t know.. or I don’t know…” I am getting heated just thinking about a couple of those exchanges. Yoga breath, Yoga breath.
The decision not to know is a conscious choice. The person decided that at some point they were too embarrassed to ask a clarifying question, did not want to appear stupid or slow, flat out did not care, or most common were a know it all and were disrespectful of the messenger.
We all have to make many decisions everyday that have varying degrees of importance, but I challenge you to ask yourself at what point do you decide that it is okay not to know. When did you decide you were okay with the consequences of not knowing. I am hopeful that you at least consciously decided and it was not a default position.